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5 Steps to Getting Work Done in the Time You Have to Do It

3/22/2016

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Tasks take as long as you have time to do it.

Think about it: Updating your resume can seem like a protracted process, leaving the document open over several days. But as soon as there is an internship or job opportunity with a firm deadline, you can have your resume polished and ready to print.

I know for me, putting chores, errands, and work off stresses me out, so why do I do it anyway?
Because it is not a priority.

If I leave the post unwritten, the email unanswered, and the laundry neglected what I’m really saying is that those tasks are not priorities right now.

But then I realize I have left someone waiting to hear from me for three days or that I’m down to my last pair of socks.  Boom – priorities!
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Here’s the thing – whether given to us or self-imposed, deadlines help make things time-sensitive, and accordingly, higher priorities

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So if you are struggling with a cycle of putting things off until you can’t avoid them anymore, here are 5 steps to make tasks priority items before deadlines force you to:

1. Identify the energy drain.
Think about what
 task or tasks fill you with a sense of anxiety, dread, or stress? You will only feel better once it is done and checked off, which means it needs to be a priority item.

2. Make a list of your items you now recognize as priorities.
Figure out what can realistically be done in the next hour, before the end of today, and what needs to be spread out over the rest of the week.​


3. If you feel like there is no time to do it, consider first how long it will take.
If it will take 15 minutes or less, stop reading this and go do it right now. Or do it as soon as you get home, or don’t let yourself go to bed without doing it.  Just get it done.

If it requires a little more time, mentally review your schedule, identifying time gaps. Do you have pockets of 10, 20, 30 minutes throughout the day? Can you work on the tasks over a few of these pockets? 
If the task requires an unbroken block of time, can you shuffle around your schedule to make space for it?

4. How can you hold yourself accountable?
This might mean asking your friend or parent to check in with you, signing up to present your findings to an audience, or telling your boss or professor you will have the assignment to them by X day or time. By knowing someone is expecting to see the task completed by a specific time, you have created a personal deadline.


5. Recognize by not doing it, you are saying this is not a priority right now.
Just see how that feels. “Applying for the scholarship due in two weeks is not a priority right now.” Is that true? If so, just go ahead and mark on your calendar the day or days you intend to devote to that scholarship app. But if just saying that feels like you’re lying to yourself – that if, actually, applying for the scholarship is a HUGE priority – then you have your answer about what work really matters to you.


Work gets done in the time we have to do it. But that doesn’t mean you have to wait until you feel like you’re pressed for time. Identify or even design your own deadlines, stick to them, and make the tasks that are important to you high-priority items now so you can stress less later.

Jessica is helping students and parents learn how to stress less about college and scholarships every day. Contact me at [email protected] to discuss an individualized blueprint to success for your student today!
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How to Talk With Your Teen About College

3/3/2016

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Click the photo for a link to a study demonstrating teenagers' brains involuntarily shut out parental nagging.

First things first – did you notice how I worded the title?
 
“How to talk with your teen about college.”
 
With.
Not “to.” Not “at.” And hopefully not “over.”
 
With.
 
Many parents have shared with me their frustrations about speaking with their teens about planning for college:
 
  • “I try to ask him about his college applications and he says to stop bugging him, he’s on it.”
  • “She says to stop pressuring her – but we’ve barely even talked about it!”
  • “He says I don’t understand.”
  • “She says she doesn’t want to think about it right now and to stop rushing her.

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​I answer with this question:
 
How are you making the topic of college an open and ongoing dialogue?
 
This is not a one-time talk. It doesn’t have to be super serious and nothing needs to be decided or resolved the first, second, or even fifth time you discuss your child’s goals and plans.
 
It is best, however, when both parents are approaching the topic with their kids prepared to listen as much as to talk. And what you’re listening for are three key pieces of information: their goals, their fears, and how you can be helpful to them.
 
Here are 4 questions that can help you initiate a real discussion about your teens’ plans and gain insight into what you can (and cannot!) do to assist them.
 
1. What do you want next year to look like?
 
Is your daughter talking a lot about seeing friends, keeping her same job, and sticking close to home, or is she dazzled by the idea of traveling, finding an internship, and meeting new people? This is a great way to bring up the idea of visiting some college campuses in person (and let her choose), so that she has the opportunity to imagine how her dreams could play out at different universities.
 
Is college even mentioned? Is your teen someone who is thinking about a gap year? If so, you know to connect her with persons who can speak to the advantages and disadvantages of taking some time off before college, and can help her be strategic about how she spends that time.
 
2. What schools are your friends talking about?
 
Your teen may not be discussing college with you, but he is almost certainly hearing other people talking about it. This is a nice, neutral pathway into a conversation that yes, is about where his friends are thinking about applying to. But hopefully it also leads to discussion about whether or not he is interested in those schools too.
 
His reasons for why or why not will be illuminating. You might discover he is fairly dedicated to the idea of striking out on his own and applying somewhere where nobody knows him. Or that he harbors a desire to stay close to home. You will get a sense of how confident he is about his prospects about being accepted to college; if he seems defeated he probably avoids talking about college with you because he is afraid he won’t get in anywhere – and of disappointing you.
 
3. Is there anything about college that makes you nervous?

 
You know your teen better than I do, so feel free to replace “nervous” with “anxious,” “scared,” “sad,” or similar words that you think will best resonate with your student.
 
Are they bummed about leaving their best friend? Nervous about leaving home? Scared about the money it will cost?
 
It’s possible that the reason your teen doesn’t want to discuss college is because it feels like a looming threat in some way. Let them know you are there to help problem-solve. If you don’t know the answer or have control over the situation, enlist the help of someone who does.
 
4. How can I best support you?
 
Sometimes the way we want to help people is not the way they want or need help. So open it up to them. Maybe they want your advice and maybe they want you to *just* listen.
 
You can also connect them with school and college counselors, financial officers, current students at the colleges your teen is interested in attending, a doctor, a therapist, a coach, or a college consultant.  

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​Bonus points for including any of these 4 reassuring statements:
 
  • I don’t know how to help you with that, but I will find someone who can.
  • This is what I’m hearing you say… (repeat back and let your teen correct you if you misunderstood)
  • You don’t have to [insert] just because… (I did, your grandfather did, your friends are, it’s the best school in the state)
  • I’m proud of you.
 
You’re doing a great job, parents! Now go tell your teens that they are also doing a great job, and let them know you are ready to listen when they want to talk.

Aim High Writing College Consulting offers a Blueprint to College service for parents who need help identifying and taking the first steps in the college and scholarship applications process. I assist parents with mapping out the path and timeline for achieving your student’s goals, preparing for you a list of deadlines, to-do lists, and resources for further help.  Contact me at [email protected] to schedule a session this month!
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